If you play something wrong, even just a couple of mistakes, you\u2019ll probably feel it didn\u2019t go well and you messed up everything. But the listener would have another perspective. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

They won\u2019t focus on the small mistakes. That focus is only in your head. The listener will focus on how great it sounds overall, and IF they hear any of the mistakes at all, they\u2019ll know that everyone can play wrong no matter how good they are, and they will hear that everything else was beautiful. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

The important thing: Never beat yourself up for playing wrong! You are the only one that cares about the small mistakes you do in your play. It\u2019s all in your head, giving you destructive thoughts and fear. Fear of failure. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

The fear of exploring your abilities <\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Part of the fear of failure is often the fear of knowing our true self, our abilities, how talented we are. Or should I say lack of talent. Have you ever got a letter in the mail or digitally, but don\u2019t wanted to open it because you have a bad feeling about it, because it may be bad news? A letter from the hospital, a letter from a company you know you have forgotten to pay, or the answer from an application. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Probably the letter is good news, or not as bad as you thought, but because of the fear of finding out that there is bad news inside, you inflict pain to yourself by delaying it, because your brain think that the pain of not knowing is smaller than the pain of getting the bad news. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Someone I know had\npain, but avoided to go to the doctor because she was afraid to get told that\nshe would have trouble to get a baby. It\u2019s completely irrational, but its how\nour brain works. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s a bit like that when learning a new instrument as well. You want to learn it, but you fear that you don\u2019t have the talent. That you\u2019re not able to ever learn it well. That you\u2019ll find out you\u2019re getting too old. Find out you\u2019re not good enough. You\u2019re afraid to find out. Find out whatever it is. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

And again, it\u2019s rarely a conscious thing. This is most often unconsciously covered by an endless stream of excuses. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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You\u2019ll never tell yourself \u201cI\u2019m avoiding this because I\u2019m afraid to find out this and that about myself\u201d. You\u2019re covering it with \u201cI can do it tomorrow\u201d, or \u201cThis isn\u2019t the right time\u201d, or \u201cI should save money for a teacher before trying\u201d (but you\u2019ll never save up that money), or \u201cI won\u2019t disturb the others in the house by practicing now\u201d, or one of thousands of other excuses we make for our self. There are unfortunately no limits for what excuses we make. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Fear of the unknown <\/h3>\n\n\n\n

This is a fear that limits us a lot. Because things that are unknown has a potential for failure, and we fear that. The fear of the unknown is something we face often throughout our life. Every time we should do something we\u2019ve never done before, we create a lot of limiting believes that we can\u2019t do it. It doesn\u2019t need to be hard, the problem is that we don\u2019t know if it\u2019s hard or not. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Since we don\u2019t know, we assume it\u2019s hard. And if we try, it may seem difficult the first couple of times, but most things in life are easy when we\u2019re used to it. When we\u2019re new to it, it just seems overwhelming, and we\u2019re afraid for doing anything wrong, because there are so many unknown aspects. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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For many people,\neven changing tires on the car is unthinkable. It\u2019s an easy task, but\neverything about it is unknown, because we haven\u2019t learned anything about it,\nand never tried. We\u2019re afraid to do something wrong and loose a wheel around\nthe first corner. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

What tools? How\nhard is it to unscrew? How hard to tighten? Am I strong enough? Can I\novertighten it? Where to place the jack? What if the car fell down from the\njack when doing the change? How much air pressure should the tire have? How to\nfill? How to get the old wheels clean? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a lot of unknown things for such a simple task, and because the fear of the unknown, a lot of people never change the tire themselves. But by doing it a couple of times it becomes easy. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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So, face the fear\nof the unknown. Be curious and willing to explore. Even though this unconscious\nfear prevent a lot of people from learning, it is not dangerous to learn a new\ninstrument. You can safely work on turning the unknown to known. Build yourself\nup rather than fearing you\u2019re not talented or good enough, and what others will\nthink of you. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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The fear of failure\nprevents a lot of people to go all in and give it an honest try. If you ask me,\nthat\u2019s the only true failure. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you have gotten\ncomfortable about what other think, and are not being afraid for finding out\nthat you don\u2019t have the talent, and work yourself around the fear of the\nunknown, you have done everything you can. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you find out\nthat the instrument isn\u2019t for you, you haven\u2019t failed. You have learned. You\nhave succeeded. Because you have faced the fears, and grown as a human being. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

And most likely, you are talented enough to learn the instrument to a level where it is fun to play and you find yourself comfortable. This is by the way relevant for a lot of situations in life, way beyond learning a new instrument! <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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